Osho on Aloneness and Loneliness

1. The aloneness is total and complete. Not loneliness but aloneness. Loneliness is always concerned with others; aloneness is concerned with oneself.
    
2. Aloneness is the joy of being just yourself. It is being joyous with yourself, it is enjoying your own company. There are very few people who enjoy their own company. And it is a very strange world: nobody enjoys his company and everybody wants others to enjoy his company! If they don't enjoy he feels insulted -- and alone he feels disgusted with himself. In fact, if YOU cannot enjoy your own company, who else is going to enjoy it?
    
3. Aloneness, solitude is positive. It is overflowing joy for no reason. It is our very nature to be joyous; hence there is no need to depend on anybody else. There is no other motive in it, it is simply there. Just as the water flows downwards, your being rises upwards. Just give it a chance -- give it solitude. And remember again, solitude is not solitariness, just as aloneness is not loneliness.
    
4. Only a no-thought is pure, because then you are utterly yourself, alone, nothing interfering. Jean-Paul Sartre says: The other is hell. And he is right in a way, because whenever you are thinking of the other you are in hell. And all thoughts are addressed to others. When you are in a state of no-thought you are alone, and aloneness is purity. And in that aloneness happens all that is worth happening.
    
5. Your aloneness is your essential being.
    
6. Meditation is total freedom, aloneness, the flight of the alone to the alone. There is no other, so there is no question of drowning yourself, but one hundred percent mindfulness will be needed -- less than that won't do.
    
7. Meditation means being ecstatic in your aloneness. But when you become ecstatic in your aloneness, soon the ecstasy is so much that you cannot contain it. It starts overflowing you. And when it starts overflowing you it becomes love. Meditation allows love to happen. And the people who have not known meditation will never know love. They may pretend that they love but they cannot. They will only pretend -- because they don't have anything to give, they are not overflowing.
    
8. You can be alone, but that aloneness may not be true aloneness. It may be only loneliness, and you may be thinking and fantasizing about all kinds of things. Aloneness comes out of awareness; it has nothing to do with where you are in the outside world but where you are in the INSIDE world.
    
9. Through aloneness, the ego is shattered. It has nothing to relate to, so it cannot exist. So if you are ready to be alone, unwaveringly alone, neither escaping nor falling back, just accepting the fact of aloneness as it is -- it becomes a great opportunity. Then you are just like a seed that has much potential in it. But remember, the seed must destroy itself for the plant to grow. Ego is a seed, a potentiality. If it is shattered, the divine is born. The divine is neither "I" nor "thou," it is one. Through aloneness, you come to this oneness.
    
10. Consciousness has come to the point now where you know that you are alone. And only in aloneness can you attain enlightenment. I am not saying loneliness. The feeling of loneliness is the feeling that comes when one is escaping from aloneness, when one is not ready to accept it. If you do not accept the fact of aloneness, then you will feel lonely. Then you will find some crowd or some means of intoxication in which to forget yourself.
     
11. The first thing we must do is to accept aloneness as a basic fact and learn to live with it. We must not create any fictions. If you create fictions you will never be able to know the truth. Fictions are projected, created, cultivated truths that prevent you from knowing what is. Live with the fact of your aloneness. If you can live with this fact, if there is no fiction between you and this fact, then the truth will be revealed to you. Every fact, if looked into deeply, reveals the truth.
     
12. If you become aware of your aloneness, then you become aware of the aloneness of others also. Then you know that to try to possess another is trespassing.
     
13. You must make a distinction between two words: lonely and alone. In the dictionary they carry the same meaning, but those who have been meditating, they know the distinction. They are not the same, they are as different as possible. Loneliness is an ugly thing; loneliness is a depressive thing -- it is a sadness; it is an absence of the other. Loneliness is the absence of the other -- you would like the other to be there, but the other is not, and you feel that and you miss them. YOU are not there in loneliness, the absence of the other is there. Alone? -- it is totally different. YOU are there, it is your presence; it is a positive phenomenon. You don't miss the other, you meet yourself.
    
    Then you are alone, alone like a peak, tremendously beautiful! Sometimes you even feel a terror -- but it has a beauty. But the presence is the basic thing: you are present to yourself. You are not lonely, you are with yourself. Alone, you are not lonely, you are with yourself. Lonely, you are simply lonely -- there is no one. You are not with yourself and you are missing the other. Loneliness is negative, an absence; aloneness is positive, a presence.
    
    If you are alone, you grow, because there is space to grow -- nobody else to hamper, nobody else to obstruct, nobody else to create more complex problems. Alone you grow, and as much as you want to grow you can grow because there is no limit, and you are happy being with yourself, and a bliss arises. There is no comparison: because the other is not there you are neither beautiful nor ugly, neither rich nor poor, neither this nor that, neither white nor black, neither man nor woman. Alone, how can you be a woman or a man? Lonely, you are a woman or a man, because the other is missing. Alone, you are no one, empty, empty of the other completely.
    
    And remember, when the other is not, the ego cannot exist: it exists with the other. Either present or absent, the other is needed for ego. To feel 'I' the other is needed, a boundary of the other. Fenced from the neighbors I feel 'I'. When there is no neighbor, no fencing, how can you feel 'I'? You will be there, but without any ego. The ego is a relationship, it exists only in relationship.
     
14. First move from things to thoughts, then from thoughts to the thinker. Things are the world of science, thought is the world of art and the thinker is the world of religion. Just go on moving inwards. The first circumference around you is of things, the second of thoughts, and the third, the centre, your very being, is nothing but consciousness. It is nothing but a witnessing. Drop things and go into thoughts; then one day thoughts also have to be dropped and then you are left alone in your purity, then you are left absolutely alone. In that aloneness is God, in that aloneness is liberation, moksha, in that aloneness is nirvana, in that aloneness for the first time you are in the real.
     
15. Ordinarily a man is alone, a woman is alone. Loneliness is there. Even if you are attached to a man or woman or a friend, and it is only the attachment of lust, you will remain lonely. Have you not watched it? Attached to a woman, attached to a man, but still you remain lonely. Somewhere deep down there is no communication with the other; you are cut off, like islands. Even dialogue seems to be impossible. Lovers ordinarily never talk to each other, because each talk creates argument, and each talk brings conflict. By and by, they learn to be silent; by and by, they learn somehow to avoid the other, or at the most, tolerate. But they remain lonely. Even if the other is there, there is space; the inner space remains unfulfilled.
     
16. On the path of meditation, aloneness is sought, desired, hoped for, prayed for. Be alone. So much so that not even in your consciousness does any shadow of the other move. On the path of love, get so dissolved that only the other becomes real and you become a shadow and by and by you completely disappear. On the path of love, God remains, you disappear; on the path of meditation, God disappears, you appear. But the total and the ultimate result is the same. A great synthesis happens.
     
17. In fact, mountain/valley are one thing, so are love and meditation, so are relationship and aloneness. The mountain of aloneness rises only in the valleys of relationship. In fact, you can enjoy aloneness only if you can enjoy relationship. It is relationship that creates the need for aloneness, it is a rhythm.
     
18. Aloneness makes you overfull. Love receives your gifts. Love empties you so that you can become full again. Whenever you are emptied by love, aloneness is there to nourish you, to integrate you. And this is a rhythm.
     
19. I have always been alone on my path. Even today I am absolutely alone. Your being here does not make any difference -- my aloneness remains untouched -- because aloneness is so intrinsic. Nobody can enter into your aloneness. You can be in the crowd and absolutely alone, but you may be alone and not alone at all. You can sit in a cave in the Himalayas and still think of the crowd, of the girlfriend and the boyfriend and the marketplace and what is going on there....
     
20. Aloneness is also one of the fundamental experiences as you enter silence. In silence there is nobody else, you are simply alone. The deeper your silence will be, thoughts will be gone, emotions will be gone, sentiments will be gone -- just pure being, a flame of light, burning alone. One can get scared because we are so much accustomed to living with people -- in the crowd, in the marketplace, in all kinds of relationships. You may not be aware that in all these relationships -- with friends, with your husbands, with your wives, with your children, with your parents -- you are basically trying to avoid the experience of aloneness. These are strategies so that you are always with somebody.
    
    It is a well-known fact, psychologically established, that if a person is left alone in isolation, after seven days he starts talking... a little like whispering. For seven days he keeps talking inside, keeps himself engaged in the mind, but then it becomes too much -- things start coming out of his mind through his mouth and he starts whispering. After fourteen days you can hear him clearly, what he is saying. After twenty-one days he does not bother about anybody, he has gone insane; now he is talking to walls, to pillars, "Hello friend, how are you?" -- to a pillar, hugging a pillar! And this is true not about somebody special, it is true about everybody. He is trying to find some relationship. If he cannot find it in reality, he will create a hallucination.
    
    You will see: just stand by the side of the road and watch people going from the office to the house, and you will be surprised. They are alone -- although there is a crowd all around -- but they are talking to themselves. They are making gestures, they are telling somebody something... because the crowd around them is not related to them. They are alone in the crowd, so they are trying to create their own illusion. Maybe they are talking to their wife, to their boss -- there are many things which cannot be said but right now they can say them. In front of the wife they cannot say it, but in this crowd, where everybody is engaged in his own thing, everybody is doing his own thing, they can say things to the wife. Nobody is listening, and at least one thing is certain -- the wife is not there! But they need the wife, they need someone to talk to. And after thirty days of isolation, a dramatic change happens: it is not only one- sided; it is not only that they are talking to the pillar, the pillar also starts talking to them! They do both things: first, "Hello, how are you?" and then, "I am good. I am fine, doing well." They answer from the side of the pillar too -- in a different voice. Now they have created a world of their own, they are no longer alone. No madman is alone. Either you are mad or not. If you don't know aloneness, there is something of madness in you.
    
    Only pure aloneness gives you a clean sanity. You don't need the other; the dependence on the other is no more there, you are enough unto yourself. Language is meaningless because language is a medium to relate with the other. The moment you are no longer dependent on the other, language is meaningless, words are meaningless. In your silence -- when there are no words, no language, nobody else is present -- you are getting in tune with existence. This serenity, this silence, this aloneness will bring you immense rewards. It will allow you to grow to your full potential. For the first time you will be an individual, for the first time you will have the touch and the taste of freedom, and for the first time the immensity, the unboundedness of existence will be yours with all its blissfulness.
    
    So whatever happens in silence -- either sadness or aloneness -- remember, in silence nothing wrong can ever happen. Whatever happens is going to enhance the beauty of it, deepen the charm of it; anything that happens will bring more and more flowers, more and more fragrance to it.
     
21. Loneliness is a negative state of mind. Aloneness is positive, notwithstanding what the dictionaries say. In dictionaries, loneliness and aloneness are synonymous -- they are synonyms; in life they are not. Loneliness is a state of mind when you are constantly missing the other, aloneness is the state of mind when you are constantly delighted in yourself. Loneliness is miserable, aloneness is blissful. Loneliness is always worried, missing something, hankering for something, desiring for something; aloneness is a deep fulfillment, not going out, tremendously content, happy, celebrating. In loneliness you are off center, in aloneness you are centered and rooted. Aloneness is beautiful. It has an elegance around it, a grace, a climate of tremendous satisfaction. Loneliness is; beggarly; all around it there is begging and nothing else. It has no grace around it. In fact it is ugly. Loneliness is a dependence, aloneness is SHEER independence. One feels as if one is one's whole world, one's whole existence.

Heroku

Create an app

(If you’ve already created a Heroku app via Facebook, you can skip to the next section.)
Start by going to Facebook Developers and clicking Create New App in the upper-right corner:

You’ll be presented with this dialog:

Enter anything you wish for the app name, check the box marked “Yes, I would like free web hosting provided by Heroku”, then click Continue.
Fill out the captcha in the subsequent dialog and click Submit. You’ll be taken to this screen

 Select environment as php
If you already have a Heroku account for the email address you enter, the new app will be associated with your existing account.

Choose your favorite programming language from the dropdown (Ruby, Node.js, Python, and PHP are currently available). Enter the email address you wish to use for your Heroku user account, then click Create.
You’ll be taken to a success dialog:

A template app, written in the language you chose, has been copied and deployed just for you!
Click Go to app to visit your new app.

Other users visiting your app will need to grant permission via a similar dialog. Users only need to do this the first time they visit the app.

Because you’re visiting your app as a user, you need to grant permission for the app to access your Facebook profile by clicking Allow:

Heroku account and tools setup

(If you already have a Heroku account and the local development tools set up, you can skip to the next section.)
Although an account as already been created for you, and the app has already been deployed, you still need to create a password and set up local tools to make changes to it.

1) Choose a password

A Heroku user account was created for you when you created the app through Facebook. Check your email and look for the welcome message:

Follow the first link in that email to the page where you can choose a password for your Heroku account:

Create a password, then close that browser window and proceed to the next step.

2) Install the Heroku Toolbelt

Install the Heroku Toolbelt on your local workstation. This ensures that you have access to the Heroku command-line client, Foreman, and the Git revision control system.

3) Log in from the command line

Once installed, you can use the heroku command from your terminal (use cmd.exe on Windows). Log in using the email address and password for your Heroku account:

commands 

$ heroku login
Enter your Heroku credentials.
Email: adam@example.com
Password:

heroku keys:add

now generate a key public key

now go to path where you want your app code  (https://intense-reef-1581.herokuapp.com/)

to be placed. path d:/shubahm/

next command:

$ git clone git@heroku.com:intense-reef-1581.git -o heroku

now  go to the directory , a folder will be creted like >>  intense-reef-1581

delete all the files in it , and add your php code in this now

in cmd type the following commands:

cd gotto d:/shubahm/intense-reef-1581

$ git commit -am "changed greeting"  

git push heroku 

Working With Sql Parameters 2

Dim command As OdbcCommand = New OdbcCommand( _
  "{ ? = CALL SampleProc(?, ?) }", connection)
command.CommandType = CommandType.StoredProcedure

Dim parameter As OdbcParameter = command.Parameters.Add("RETURN_VALUE", OdbcType.Int)
parameter.Direction = ParameterDirection.ReturnValue

parameter = command.Parameters.Add( _
  "@InputParm", OdbcType.VarChar, 12)
parameter.Value = "Sample Value"

parameter = command.Parameters.Add( _
  "@OutputParm", OdbcType.VarChar, 28)
parameter.Direction = ParameterDirection.Output

-------------------------------------------------

Dim command As OleDbCommand = New OleDbCommand( _
  "SampleProc", connection)
command.CommandType = CommandType.StoredProcedure

Dim parameter As OleDbParameter = command.Parameters.Add( _
  "RETURN_VALUE", OleDbType.Integer)
parameter.Direction = ParameterDirection.ReturnValue

parameter = command.Parameters.Add( _
  "@InputParm", OleDbType.VarChar, 12)
parameter.Value = "Sample Value"

parameter = command.Parameters.Add( _
  "@OutputParm", OleDbType.VarChar, 28)
parameter.Direction = ParameterDirection.Output

Working with SQL Parameters

Introduction
The SqlParameter class is found in the "System.Data.SqlClient" namespace. It is a class of a connected architecture of .NET framework. It represents parameters. To work with the SqlParameter class we should have a database. In this example I am using a Database "student" which has a "student_detail" table. "RollNo", "Name" and "City" are column names. I will save and retrieve records using SqlParameter class.  Here is a list of important properties of the SqlParameter class which will be used in this example.

SqlDbType : It is used to set the Sql Server Data types for a given parameter.

ParameterName : It is used to specify a parameter name.
Direction : It is used for setting the direction of a SqlParameter. It is Input or Output or both (InputOutput).
Size : It is used to set maximum size of value of parameter.

Value : It is used for assigning or getting value of the parameter. 

Now, take a Windows Forms application in Visual Studio 2010. Take some UI Controls and arrange them as shown in the figure below.



Write the following code for saving a record into the database.
using System;
using System.Collections.Generic;
using System.ComponentModel;
using System.Data;
using System.Drawing;
using System.Linq;
using System.Text;
using System.Windows.Forms;
using System.Data.SqlClient;
namespace WorkWithSqlParameterClass
{
    public partial class Form1 : Form    {
        public Form1()
        {
            InitializeComponent();
        }
 
        SqlConnection conn;
        SqlCommand comm;
        string connstring = "database=student;server=.;user=sa;password=wintellect";
        
    private void btnsave_Click(object sender, EventArgs e)
        {
            conn = new SqlConnection(connstring);
            conn.Open();
 
            comm = new SqlCommand();
            comm.Connection = conn;
 
            //Creating instance of SqlParameter             SqlParameter PmtrRollNo = new SqlParameter();
            PmtrRollNo.ParameterName = "@rn";// Defining Name            PmtrRollNo.SqlDbType = SqlDbType.Int; // Defining DataType            PmtrRollNo.Direction = ParameterDirection.Input; // Setting the direction  
            //Creating instance of SqlParameter             SqlParameter PmtrName = new SqlParameter();
            PmtrName.ParameterName = "@nm";// Defining Name            PmtrName.SqlDbType = SqlDbType.VarChar; // Defining DataType            PmtrName.Direction = ParameterDirection.Input;// Setting the direction  
            //Creating instance of SqlParameter             SqlParameter PmtrCity = new SqlParameter();

            PmtrCity.ParameterName = "@ct"; // Defining Name            PmtrCity.SqlDbType = SqlDbType.VarChar; // Defining DataType            PmtrCity.Direction = ParameterDirection.Input;// Setting the direction  
            // Adding Parameter instances to sqlcommand 
            comm.Parameters.Add(PmtrRollNo);
            comm.Parameters.Add(PmtrName);
            comm.Parameters.Add(PmtrCity);
 
            // Setting values of Parameter  
            PmtrRollNo.Value = Convert.ToInt32(txtrollno.Text);
            PmtrName.Value = txtname.Text;
            PmtrCity.Value = txtcity.Text;
 
            comm.CommandText = "insert into student_detail values(@rn,@nm,@ct)";
 
            try            {
                comm.ExecuteNonQuery();
                MessageBox.Show("Saved");
            }
            catch (Exception)
            {
                MessageBox.Show("Not Saved");
            }
            finally            {
                conn.Close();
            }
        }
    }
}
 
 Run the application. 

Output


Fill in the form and click the "Save" button. The record will be saved to the Database and a message box will be displayed with a confirmation message.


Now we retrieve records from the database. Take another button and set its text property as "Show". Add the following code for the "Show" button.
 

private void btnshow_Click(object sender, EventArgs e)
        {
            conn = new SqlConnection(connstring);
            conn.Open();
 
            comm = new SqlCommand();
            comm.Connection = conn;
 
            //Creating instance of SqlParameter             SqlParameter PmtrRollNo = new SqlParameter();
            PmtrRollNo.ParameterName = "@rn";// Defining Name            PmtrRollNo.SqlDbType = SqlDbType.Int; // Defining DataType            PmtrRollNo.Direction = ParameterDirection.Input; // Setting the direction  
            //Creating instance of SqlParameter             SqlParameter PmtrName = new SqlParameter();
            PmtrName.ParameterName = "@nm";// Defining Name            PmtrName.SqlDbType = SqlDbType.VarChar; // Defining DataType            PmtrName.Size = 30;
            PmtrName.Direction = ParameterDirection.Output;// Setting the direction  
            //Creating instance of SqlParameter             SqlParameter PmtrCity = new SqlParameter("@ct", SqlDbType.VarChar, 20);
            PmtrCity.Direction = ParameterDirection.Output;// Setting the direction  
            // Adding Parameter instances to sqlcommand 
            comm.Parameters.Add(PmtrRollNo);
            comm.Parameters.Add(PmtrName);
            comm.Parameters.Add(PmtrCity);
 
            // Setting values of Parameter  
            PmtrRollNo.Value = Convert.ToInt32(txtrollno.Text);
            PmtrName.Value = txtname.Text;
            PmtrCity.Value = txtcity.Text;
 
            comm.CommandText = "select @nm=name,@ct=city from student_detail where rollno=@rn";
 
            try            {
                comm.ExecuteNonQuery();
                txtname.Text = PmtrName.Value.ToString();
                txtcity.Text = PmtrCity.Value.ToString();
                }
                catch (Exception)
                {
                    MessageBox.Show("Not Found");
                }
                finally                {
                    conn.Close();
                }
            }
        } 
  
Run the application.
Output


Enter a roll number and click the "Show" button. It will show all the related information of the student having the given roll number.

Source :  http://www.c-sharpcorner.com/UploadFile/718fc8/working-with-sqlparameter-class-in-ado-net/

Benefits of using parameters

Benefits of using parameters

Better performance .

Explicit data typing 

Greater security 

http://livedocs.adobe.com/flex/3/html/help.html?content=SQL_07.html

ADO.net

Solution to
Ado.net parameters:

String = 
    "INSERT INTO inventoryItems (name, productCode)" +
    "VALUES (?, ?)";
var addItemStmt:SQLStatement = new SQLStatement();
addItemStmt.sqlConnection = conn;
addItemStmt.text = sql;

// set parameter values
addItemStmt.parameters[0] = "Item name";
addItemStmt.parameters[1] = "12345";

addItemStmt.execute();